Compromise is when both people get some of what they want or one person gets what they want and the other person is okay with that choice (no anger or resentment).
Sacrifice is when one person gets what they want but the other person is NOT okay with it. They agree to what the other person wants, but with resentment and/or anger.
It is important to recognize the difference. Be honest with what you want. You can't always get what you want, but you can express your preferences to the other person. Maybe the choice can be turned into a compromise, but only if you are willing to be honest and the other person is willing to listen.
Don't be with the person who makes your heart flutter; be with the person who calms your heart. If possible have both!
If you are identical you are likely to not fit together; however, you want to be part of the same picture.
If an "if only" creates a learning opportunity, learn from it and move on. Reflecting about an "if only" without learning is negativity and has no value. Same thing with "what if" regarding a past experience. We tend to believe that the "if only" and "what if" would have resulted in a more positive experience than currently present in our life. The outcome of an "if only" or "what if" is unknown and will never be known. Use it for planning and creating options, not as a negative reflection of the past, present, or future.
Expressing agreement with another person builds trust and connection. The expectation is that there is a mutual desire to please. If a person expresses agreement more often than not, and limits the times of refusal, refusals become meaningful and are more likely to be respected.
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